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That was probably cudling but I just wanted to make that clear. I just really wanted to snuggle. No kissing, no heavy petting, just some good old fashioned snuggling because I Seeking honest male what it feels like to fall asleep next to a hice body.
A day later I mentioned to a male friend what had transpired A nice dinner cuddling no sex he suggested that I had been "cruel" and "led him on.
I'm perfectly fine with my decision not to sleep with this person. But the more I thought about it, the more I wondered if it really is unfair to invite someone into my bed and Orizaba singles com not go any further.
I know I don't owe anyone anything, but I don't want to be manipulative or selfish in the sense that I'm getting what I want human contact and he's not getting what diinner assumed he would sex. I did text him after and said I was sorry if I led him on and that I wasn't ready to sleep with anyone yet and he A nice dinner cuddling no sex fine, but it's been so long since I had to cuddilng with men that I just don't know if I'm being weird.
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If they are unacceptable to him in any way, it's on him to decline your invitation. Sounds fine to me. IMO you aren't even required to give the up-front explanation that there won't be any sex, but you did, so you're Adult want hot sex Portal NorthDakota 58772 fine. The thing is, you told him what you wanted and did not want before hand, so he was free to make his own decision, and he chose to sleep in your bed.
He made his own choice as an adult and you were A nice dinner cuddling no sex being manipulative at all. You should probably be prepared for some people to be hurt and upset, but if they are, it's because they are expecting to be able to disregard your stated boundaries so I wouldn't feel bad about it. It does sort of imply A nice dinner cuddling no sex possibility of a more physical relationship in the future, which from the paragraph above it doesn't show that you ruled out, if that's what your friend meant by leading him on then the guy you snuggled with may have been setup to believe that this was the opening into greater intimacy on future dates.
Not leading him on at all, and in fact, the guy sounds like a decent guy, snuggling with you without any pressure. Snuggling is the best! Your friend who told you you were cruel has his priorities out of whack.
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The snuggler sounds like a keeper so far. This line to me implies that you might want to sleep with him someday.
The things you describe telling this guy sound to me like the stuff a girl says when she wants cudling "take it slow," not when she is only interested in friendship. Verbally setting the boundary at not wanting to have sex might imply to a lot of guys that you were willing to make out, get naked, etc.
This doesn't mean you should feel guilty. It sounds like Ladies seeking sex tonight Smiley Texas 78159 did the best you could in the moment to A nice dinner cuddling no sex clear about what you did and did not want.
But there is room to be more clear in any similar future situations, and I think it's nice of you to be asking about that. If you know or strongly suspect that a guy is romantically interested in you, there's no amount of caveats and warnings and boundaries that will prevent a leading-on situation, if A nice dinner cuddling no sex invite him to sleep in your bed.
All the "be clear with your words" stuff flies bice the window when somebody will be full of hope and desperate to believe your actions rather than your statements.
Anybody pining for you that you're not interested in, don't let 'em sleep in your bed. I'm not saying that this guy is in that situation, but keep it in mind in case you run into I need halloween plans guys like that in the future. He's not entitled to sex just because you guys are on a A nice dinner cuddling no sex.
Even if you were fooling around, he's not entitled to putting his penis in you until you say it is. You were clear and direct, and he chose to stay. That's how it should be.
I have done this, and also had it said to me, "I thought I could do this, but it is too tempting, so I'd rather not in future. Ok, so it was a third party that's criticising you, not the guy who you actually snuggled with? Well, that's interesting that he A nice dinner cuddling no sex that, but the way I see it is that sex and intimacy are a very personal, very individual thing, and it's not about adhering to some abstract societal standard but rather making an agreement with another individual.
If it works for you and your snuggle-buddy then that's all that matters. But for what it's worth, I've known plenty of folks, both male and female, who would love an all-night snuggle session with a friend, and wouldn't think twice about it not going any farther. You did the opposite of leading him on; A nice dinner cuddling no sex told him explicitly, beforehand, that sex was definitely not going to happen.
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Jul 25, No, it isn't sex every day or your man's ability to keep you with a Mulberry handbag on your arm (although that would be nice), it's actually down. Mar 25, Rule 1 is that when you say no to sex, that's the end of the discussion – there is to he can ask you for some physical affection, whether that means cuddling or having a So make sure that regularly you tell him when he looks good, that you' re effusive and . Tips at the Ivy restaurant: Following the money. I'm perfectly fine with my decision not to sleep with this person. . have dinner together and snuggle and do things that romantic partners do.
Well, everyone is right so far. You don't have any obligation, and you were clear. I'm just gonna be the asshole here and say, if you say no sex, and then invite a guy into your bed, some guys are going to take that as "but I invite you to try to change my mind. Sounds like that wasn't the case, though, so you should be good. Just be aware that a similar situation in the future with a different person might not go the same way.
I don't think what you're doing is "wrong", necessarily, and I think that if you're very honest this is an arrangement A nice dinner cuddling no sex can be OK. That said, yeah, if I had a friend who I was doing datelike activities with, and then they invited me to stay over, and then they invited me into their bed, I would probably assume that we were heading in a romantic A nice dinner cuddling no sex. I can definitely see this same situation being asked about from the opposite angle "I spend all this time with my friend, it's very intimate, she wants me to sleep at her house and in her bed without sex, does this mean she's into Hot pussy in Worcester Massachusetts Apologies if you're not female.
I definitely A nice dinner cuddling no sex you need to absolutely know what you want and where the lines are to be drawn, and to keep this dude extremely well informed of all that. Because, yeah, you're sending mixed signals at the very least. And, yes, of course nobody is entitled to sex and inviting someone to share your bed isn't implied consent for sex. Just because it has to be said. You haven't led him on regarding sex, but maybe he feels you are more than friends or moving towards that, and it sounds like this is not the case.Women Who Want Sex In Trenton New Jersey
If you want to continue to do things like have dinner together and snuggle and do things that romantic partners do, I think you have a responsibility to be really clear that you are not interested in being more than friends. This is precisely what I came here to say. People don't deal well with ambiguity, and what you said to him regarding sex resolved only a tiny part of the overall ambiguity here.
IMO people that are just friends for the foreseeable future don't usually snuggle in bed, especially in the context of doing other date-y things.
If this is leading dinnrr to something, fine, people have to tolerate ambiguity there; if not, I think you'll need to revert to more obvious "friends" territory. You were clear, but you're not 6, either, on a A nice dinner cuddling no sex with your bestest pal ever. I think this is moderately childish and not really something a grown woman does. It is a private arrangement between the A nice dinner cuddling no sex of you.
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People are not robots. Doing date-like activities and then inviting a person into your bed is sending romantic signals no matter that you've said "no sex tonight!
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A person of good intent could quite reasonably interpret the situation n heading in a sexual direction in the mid-term future. And then saying "I'm not ready to sleep with anyone yet " is classic ambiguity.
He quite possibly heard "but in the future I may indeed be ready to sleep with you. I have a male friend who I do date type things with, we snuggle on the couch watching a tv series, we go out to parties together, he spends the night in my diner and we just cuddle.
The idea came from him - he doesn't want a sexual relationship with me, and that's okay, I really value him as a friend, and love the physical contact. But it's not something I tend to tell people about because who's going to believe me?
If you are able to be honest and open with your bed buddy, and he's okay with it - I certainly see no problem with it. A A nice dinner cuddling no sex of us single folk really need Wives looking hot sex Melvin touch and sometimes the people who are right to give it to us are not right for us to have sex with. Agreeing with everyone here. If a gal invites a non-gay guy to snuggle with her, and says "I'm not cudvling for sex yet," then any guy who is into her will take that as "take it slowly with me, okay?
But don't count me out. Words are fine and good, but actions speak louder than them. A nice dinner cuddling no sex
I would never say that it was cruel; in fact I'm leaning towards saying you're totally in the clear. I don't even think your behavior is weird, except maybe in the statistical sense. In fact I cudddling it's refreshingly sensible. He could A nice dinner cuddling no sex misinterpret this as something romantic, especially depending on how much he might secretly?
If it happened to me, I would definitely be totally fine with just cuddling, but I probably wouldn't assume that that was what our relationship was unless it was made explicitly clear.
I would probably assume that sdx were moving slowly in a romantic direction.